for my birthday, dont ask me, "what do you want for your birthday?"
instead, ask me, "how would you like to spend your birthday?" and make it tough.
the birthdayer should think long and hard about how they should spend the anniversary of their existence, given, thanks to God, willing celebrants.
for example:
So he said: "Why don't you tell me anything you'd like to have, if you did a workshop for me, no matter how outrageous, and maybe I can give it to you." So I said: "Well, if you could give me forty Jewish women who speak neither English nor French, either women who've been in the theater for a long time and want to leave it but don't know why, or young women who love the theater but have never seen a theater that they could love, and if these women could all play the trumpet or the harp, and if I could work in a forest, I'd come!" [They both laugh.] A week later, two weeks later, he called me from Poland and he said: "Well, forty Jewish women is little hard to find!" But he said: "I do have forty women. They all pretty much fit the definition." And he said: "I also have some very interesting men, but you don't have to work with them. These are all people who have in common the fact that they're questioning the theater. They don't all play the trumpet or the harp, but they all play a musical instrument, and none of them speak English." And he'd found me a forest, Wally, and the only inhabitants of this forest were some wild boar and a hermit! So that was an offer I couldn't refuse! I had to go. So, I went to Poland.
carings friends can be wonderfully inventive. give them the opportunity, and yourself, by asking yourself this tough question.
and give them the answer.
